By Cheryl Goldhart
Founder and Principal of Goldhart Law and Goldhart Mediation & Arbitration

1. Navigating Family Law: The Path Through Divorce And Separation In Ontario

Navigating a separation or divorce can seem like traversing a maze of emotional and legal challenges. When marriages or common-law relationships end, crucial matters such as parenting, child access, child and spousal support, and dividing property need to be addressed. Understanding the family laws applicable to these issues enables individuals to safeguard their rights and effectively navigate this transition.

Being knowledgeable about family law helps set realistic expectations and make sound decisions. It’s essential to anticipate potential conflicts and negotiate equitable settlements. Overlooking family law issues, whether intentionally or not, can lead to unexpected and often negative outcomes.

Moreover, family law issues continue to play a role even after the finalization of a divorce or separation. Arrangements around parenting, child and spousal support may need modifications as circumstances evolve.

Ending a marriage or common-law relationship involves a host of emotional and legal matters. Alternatives to court battles, such as mediation and arbitration, offer more amicable dispute resolution pathways.

This article aims to provide key insights into family law considerations and processes, guiding you towards peaceful transitions.

2. Deciphering Divorce And Separation: An Ontario Perspective

2.1. Clarifying Divorce And Separation: Definitions And Distinctions In Ontario

Divorce and separation in Ontario have distinct meanings and legal implications.

A divorce is the legal end of a marriage, granted by a court, officially terminating the marital relationship. A divorce settlement generally addresses issues like parenting schedules, child and spousal support, and property division. Post-divorce, individuals are legally free to remarry.

Separation is when married spouses decide to live apart, ending their cohabitation and marital relationship permanently. Despite this, they remain legally married until a divorce is granted. They still need to address legal issues like parenting, support, and property division.

“Common-law” partners don’t go through a divorce since they were never legally married. Their separation involves ending their cohabitation and resolving any legal issues between them.

2.2. The Legal Landscape Of Divorce Versus Separation In Ontario

The legal implications of divorce and separation in Ontario include:

  • Divorce provides a complete legal termination of the marriage and permits remarriage, whereas separation does not.
  • A mandatory one-year separation period is required before the courts grant a divorce, unlike separation.
  • Courts grant divorces, whereas the decision to separate is made by the spouses themselves.

2.3. Dispelling Myths: The Realities Of Divorce And Separation

Some widespread misunderstandings about divorce and separation are:

  • A belief that separation still binds a couple to marital vows like fidelity, which is not the case as the marital relationship ends with separation.
  • Thinking that a separation agreement is all that is needed to legally end a marriage, whereas a divorce is required for complete legal dissolution.
  • Assuming that divorce processes are always highly litigious, while many are settled amicably out of court.
  • Not realizing that obligations for support and rights to property division persist even after divorce/separation.
  • Believing that common-law couples can legally divorce, which is not possible as they need to simply separate.

3. Key Family Law Considerations In Divorce And Separation

3.1. Navigating Child Parenting Rights and Access Rights

Parenting refers to arrangements for decision-making and living arrangements for children after divorce or separation.

Common types of parenting arrangements include:

  • Sole decision making, where one parent holds full decision-making authority.
  • Joint decision making, involving shared decision-making between parents together, meaning the decision is not made unless the parents agree
  • Shared parenting time, where each parent has approximately equal time with the children.
  • Split parenting, where siblings live primarily with different parents.
  • Primary parenting, where children primarily with one parent

3.1.2 Criteria For Determining Parenting Arrangements

When deciding on parenting arrangements, courts consider factors such as:

  • The Child’s Best Interest – this is the primary consideration in all parenting arrangements, determined by considering the factors below
  • Child’s Preferences – depending on the child’s maturity and age;
  • Parent-Child Relationships – the quality of the attachment and bonding with each parent;
  • Ability To Meet The Child’s Needs – which of the parents can best provide for the needs of the child, including physical, emotional and financial;
  • Parenting History Of Involvement – the degree of involvement historically and caregiving for the child’
  • Mental Health And Substance Abuse Issues – whether there are any issues like addiction which may jeopardize the welfare of a child;
  • Family Violence – whether there is a history of child or spousal abuse;
  • Ability Of Parents To Cooperate – the ability of parents to cooperate, communicate and jointly make decisions;
  • Schedules And Support Systems – factors such as work schedules, support from family members to assist the child needs and proximity; and
  • Stability And The Status Quo – avoiding disruption and maintaining consistency for the benefit of the child.

3.1.3 Rights and Responsibilities for the Non-Residential Parent

The non-residential parent has the right to reasonable parenting time with the children, as determined by the children’s best interests. This includes overnights, weekends, holidays, etc. Restrictions may apply in certain situations.

3.1.4 Adjusting Parenting Plans

Parenting arrangements may be re-evaluated and changed if there are material changes affecting the child’s best interests. The parent seeking the change must demonstrate a material change in circumstances, that the change is in the child’s best interests, and that the benefits of the change outweigh any disruptiveness.

3.2. The Ins and Outs of Child Support

3.2.1 Exploring Child Support Responsibilities

Child support obligations involves the responsibility of the paying parent to financially support the children, considering their reasonable needs and living standards. Child support is determined based on the payor’s income, the province’s guidelines, the number of children, and any special expenses.

3.2.2 Determining Factors for Child Support Amounts

The following are certain of the key factors affecting the amount of child support payable:

  • Income of the Payor – the amount of the paying parent’s gross annual income;
  • Child Support Guidelines – Each province has guidelines of “table amounts” of support based upon number of children and income;
  • Number of Children – the greater the number of children, the higher, the total amount of support;
  • Special Expenses – additional cost for special needs such as childcare, educational and medical;
  • Payor’s Ability to Pay – assets, expenses, debts, and living costs are taken into consideration;
  • Recipient’s Means – income and resources which are available to the recipient parent;
  • Child’s Best Interests – the expenses and lifestyle necessary to reasonably meet the child’s needs;
  • Time Spent with Each Parent – the relative amount of time the child spends with each parent;
  • Additional Dependents – other support obligations for other children/families; and
  • Undue Hardship – Financial difficulties which make it particularly difficult for compliance by the paying parent.

3.2.3 Understanding the Duration of Child Support Obligations

Child support continues until the child is no longer a “child of the marriage” and may extend through post-secondary education if the child remains financially dependent.

3.2.4 Modifying and Enforcing Child Support Obligations

Enforcing and modifying child support involves legal remedies through courts and the Family Responsibility Office in Ontario for default payments, such as wage garnishment, asset seizure, driver’s license suspension, and other penalties.

The court can also modify the support amount if there has been a material change in circumstances like job loss, income change, or increased expenses.

The paying parent must provide updated financial disclosure for the court to reconsider the appropriate support amount based on their current means.

Parties are required to exchange financial information annually, and agreements or orders may allow for automatic increases tied to inflation or cost of living.

Typically, child support continues until a child reaches the age of 18 or completes high school, but it may be extended if the child pursues post-secondary education

3.3. Spousal Support: Eligibility, Calculation and Modifications

3.3.1 Spousal Support Eligibility

Eligibility for Spousal Support in Ontario requires the recipient spouse to demonstrate a need for support and the paying spouse’s ability to pay. Courts consider factors such as the following:

  • Length of Marriage – how long was the marriage;
  • Roles During Marriage – the relative responsibilities and contributions of each partner, such as breadwinner versus caregiver;
  • Health and Age – impact on financial needs and earning capacity;
  • Employability and Education – job, qualifications, earnings, ability, experience, and skill;
  • Capacity to Become Self-Supporting – is it reasonable that the spouse can become a financially independent;
  • Loss of Marital Standard of Living – support necessary to approximately, maintain marital living in standard;
  • Compensatory Basis – consideration of whether the marriage imposed economic disadvantages on a spouse claiming support;
  • Economic Hardship – the urgent need for financial support; and
  • Means and Needs – assets, incomes, expenses, and debts of each of the spouses.

3.3.2 Calculating Spousal Support

The Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines determine the duration and sum of support based on the income of the person paying and how long the marriage lasted. The needs of the recipient, the cost of living, and assets acquired through equalization are also taken into account by the Courts. Support given for a defined period of time could be granted to promote self-sufficiency. As well, many agreements typically integrate adjustments for cost-of-living increases.

3.3.3 Modifying and Terminating Spousal Support

Modification and termination of spousal support typically occur upon the death of either party. Support may be reviewed if the payer loses their job, retires, or if the recipient remarries, cohabits, or substantially increases their earnings. Courts favor certainty in support arrangements, and clear termination clauses are often included in agreements.

3.4 Dividing Assets: The Process of Equalizing Net Family Property – Applicable Only to Married Spouses

Family Property refers to almost all assets (including pensions and debts) acquired by either or both spouses during the marriage. Excluded property belongs to one spouse exclusively and is excluded from division, such as gifts, inheritances, insurance settlements received during the marriage, and pre-marital property kept in that spouse’s name.

3.4.1 Property Division in Ontario

Ontario uses an “equalization” approach to split marital property when couples separate. This means they first determine the value of each spouse’s assets and debts on a specific date (usually the separation date). Then, they calculate the “net family property” for each spouse by subtracting debts from assets. Finally, if there’s a difference in net family property values, the spouse with the higher value pays the other spouse half the difference to achieve an equal division of the overall marital wealth accumulated during the marriage.

3.4.2 Special Cases in Property Division

While Ontario’s equalization aims for an even split of marital wealth gained during the marriage, complexities arise with specific assets. Pensions might be divided with lump sums or payment streams, and may require expert valuation. Businesses, generally need objective assessment by Chartered Business Valuators. Contrary to popular belief, the matrimonial home’s value is equalized, NOT automatically divided equally. Debt repayment also needs to be addressed for a complete picture.

3.5 Navigating Tax Implications of Divorce

3.5.1 Tax Considerations for Spousal and Child Support

When paying or receiving spousal support in Canada, be aware of the tax implications. Unlike child support, which is tax-free for the payor and recipient, spousal support is considered taxable income for the recipient and tax-deductible for the payor. Keep in mind that support in arrears or lump sum payments might have different tax rules.

3.5.2 Tax Issues for Dividing Property

While tax-neutrality generally applies to interspousal property transfers during separation, potential tax implications may arise when selling or transferring specific assets. Consulting a qualified tax professional is recommended for navigating complex assets on separation or when dealing with significant assets to ensure optimal tax outcomes and prevent unintended liabilities.

4. The Legal Process for Initiating and Finalizing Divorce and Separation

4.1 Starting the Separation or Divorce Process

In Ontario, either spouse can take the first step towards divorce or separation by seeking legal counsel from a family law professional. This helps clarify rights and available options within the legal framework. Notably, for a divorce to be finalized, spouses must have been separated for at least one year before the court grants the official Divorce Order.

4.2 Legal Requirements for Separation or Divorce

Formally dissolving your marriage or separating in Ontario involves specific legal documents to ensure a smooth and legally sound process. Here’s a breakdown of the key documents you’ll encounter:

Initiating the Process

Application for Divorce: Formally requests the Court to dissolve your marriage, requiring proof of separation for at least one year.

Separation: Begins the legal separation process without dissolving the marriage, outlining property division and spousal/child support agreements.

Financial Disclosure

Financial Statements: Documents detailing your individual income, expenses, assets, and liabilities, providing a clear picture of your financial positions.

Reaching Agreements

Separation Agreement/Minutes of Settlement: If the parties can reach agreement, legally binding contracts documenting agreed-upon terms regarding property division, spousal/child support, and parenting arrangements. These agreements often form the basis of court orders.

Finalizing the Process

Divorce Order: The official court document formally ending your marriage, incorporating the terms of your separation agreement or outlining court-determined settlements.

Remember: This is just an overview, and specific document requirements may vary depending on your circumstances. Consulting with a family law lawyer is crucial for ensuring you have all the necessary paperwork and legal representation throughout the process.

4.3 Alternative Dispute Resolution: Mediation and Arbitration to Resolve Family Law Disputes

Seeking a divorce or separation doesn’t always mean battling it out in court. Mediation and arbitration offer faster, less stressful alternatives.

Both involve a neutral third party:

Mediators: Facilitate productive communication to help spouses reach mutually agreeable settlements on shared assets, child support, and other critical issues.

Arbitrators: Make binding decisions after hearing arguments from both sides, similar to a judge but in a less formal setting.

These options can save you time, money, and emotional strain compared to traditional court proceedings, while still resulting in legally enforceable agreements.

4.4 Court Resolution of Family law Disputes

In the absence of out-of-court agreements, a judge will determine matters like parenting rights and schedules, child support, spousal support, and property division.

4.5 Completing the Divorce or Separation Agreement

Whether reached through agreement or court decision, the final terms are documented in a legally binding order or agreement, addressing all financial and legal obligations arising from the dissolved marriage or relationship. Following these terms is crucial under family law.

5. Emotional Support Through Divorce or Separation

5.1.1 Recognize the Emotional Aspects and Seek Support

Divorce and separation bring about a tsunami of emotions, from the crashing waves of grief and loss to the undercurrents of anger, loneliness, and resentment. It’s crucial to have life rafts in place to help you navigate these difficult waters. Here are some ways to find support and begin healing:

5.1.2 Find Support with Professional Guidance and Personal Networks

Seek Counseling: Don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor who specializes in divorce and separation. They can provide a safe space to process your emotions, develop coping mechanisms, and navigate the emotional roller coaster.

Forge Connections: Join a Support Group: Connecting with others who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly powerful. Support groups provide a sense of community, shared experiences, and invaluable understanding.

Confide in Trusted Loved Ones: Lean on trusted friends and family members who offer a listening ear and unwavering support. Their empathy and encouragement can be a lighthouse in the storm.

Prioritize Self-Care: Focus on activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Engage in hobbies, exercise regularly, and prioritize healthy sleep and eating habits. Self-care is not selfish; it’s essential for healing and reclaiming your resilience.

Remember, healing takes time and patience. Be gentle with yourself, embrace the support available, and know that you are not alone.

5.2. Supporting Children Through Divorce or Separation

When families divorce, children can take it hard. They might wonder if they’re to blame, feeling confused and scared. It is important to:

Reassure them it’s not their fault: Gently explain that the adults’ decision has nothing to do with them and both parents still love them dearly.

Maintain stability: Stick to familiar routines and schedules whenever possible. This provides kids with a sense of normalcy and security.

Keep communication open: Make your children feel comfortable talking about their feelings. Actively listen without judgment and answer their questions honestly.

Watch for signs of struggle: Be mindful of changes in behavior, such as declining grades, social withdrawal, or excessive sadness. These could indicate deeper emotional challenges.

Seek professional help when needed: If your child experiences prolonged difficulties coping, don’t hesitate to seek professional counseling. Talking to a therapist can help them process their emotions and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

Remember: Every child reacts differently to family changes. Patience, understanding, and open communication are essential in helping them navigate this challenging time

6. Final Thoughts

6.1 Significant Family Law Issues in Divorce or Separation

In summary, the major legal issues that arise during divorce and separation include:

  • Determining parenting decision-making and schedules for children.
  • Child support amounts.
  • Spousal support eligibility, amount, and duration.
  • The division of property.
  • Debt obligations and tax implications.

Out-of-court dispute resolution methods like mediation or arbitration can facilitate amicable settlements. The emotional toll on spouses and children must be managed through support systems and self-care.

6.2 The Importance of Legal and Emotional Support e

Ending a legal relationship, whether common-law or marital, brings with it a complex web of legal and emotional challenges. This journey requires informed decisions and trusted support.

Consulting with an experienced family law lawyer protects your rights and interests throughout the process, especially regarding crucial matters like parenting, support, and property division. Remember, you are not alone. Embrace the wealth of emotional support resources available, such as counseling and support groups, to help you navigate the emotional terrain.

While undoubtedly challenging, separation or divorce can also unlock the door to personal growth and new beginnings. This is an opportunity to redefine your future with clarity and strength.

Seeking peaceful resolutions is always commendable. Mediation offers a collaborative approach, guiding couples towards mutually agreeable solutions through compromise and shared problem-solving, replacing confrontation with understanding. Alternatively, arbitration provides a private and often cost-effective means to settle disputes outside the courtroom.

Remember, you have the strength to move forward. Let’s create a path for a brighter future, together.

Let’s continue to elevate the practice of family law in Ontario!

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Cheryl Goldhart is a family law lawyer who can make a difference in resolving your family disputes.

  • Near Four Decades of Experience in Family Law: Cheryl’s distinguished career specializing exclusively in family law spans almost 40 years.
  • Master’s Degree – Counselling: Her educational background in Counselling adds a layer of empathy and insight in the way she addresses cases.
  • Certified Family Law Specialist by the Law Society of Ontario: Cheryl’s expertise in family law is reflected in her certification as a Family Law Specialist by the Law Society of Ontario.
  • Accreditation as a Family Mediator by OAFM: Cheryl is a certified mediator, holding accreditation from the Ontario Association for Family Mediation.
  • ADR Professional Designation by the ADR Institute: Cheryl’s skills in arbitration are recognized with a professional designation from the ADR Institute of Ontario.
  • Recipient of Numerous Honours and Awards: Cheryl’s contributions to family law have been recognized with various awards, honours, and accolades, including the esteemed Award for Excellence in Family Law from the Ontario Bar Association.

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